Lovely Mehndi

Lovely Mehndi
I love the simplicity of this design

Saturday, July 24, 2010

Mehendi Inspiration Photos

Gorgeous Mehendi Cake from the UK

Here are some of the lovely pictures I found on the internet for Mehendi. As we prepare for ours we are planning to use a combination of influences from India but also Morocco and Jerusalem.

Pulling off a Mehendi in Indianapolis is tough - especially since most venues have a dedicated list of non-Indian caterers. Fortunately we are planning to use pipe and drape so even if we wind up in a small hall we can make the space look nice.





I love the look of tented buffet tables
Curry Chicken - American style on cornbread!
By the paint on the floor it looks like this was done in a school gym. Something we may have to resort to, yet it still looks lovely.

Wednesday, July 21, 2010

Long distance Mehndi

Okay, now that I have dug up the past, it's time to move on to the present. Henna is still used among Yemeni, Moroccan and Sephardi Jews, as well as some Sabras. It is also still used at Arabic and Indian weddings.

Which brings me back to, well, me. First, I need to ante up with some background information.

Our religious wedding is taking place in the groom's hometown as that is where I will be moving later on; after the legal wedding. As mentioned earlier, I am Canadian. Which means that we have to get married twice in order to get things squared away with Uncle Sam. This is because fiance visas give you just 90 days to get moved and married. Hmmm, 60 days notice for my house, that leaves 30 days to move, unpack, oh - and plan and execute a wedding which customarily is a 10 day event. How likely is this? So we are having our religious events separately - well planned out with over a year to get everything done and our legal ceremony will happen whenever Uncle Sam says so.


Now back to the Mehndi.

Trying to have a Mehndi in INDIANAPOLIS is proving to be a challenge. Unlike my hometown in the Greater Toronto Area, which has a huge Indian population (particularly in the Brampton, Markham, Scarborough and Gerrard Street areas) the community in Indy is relatively small. Next challenge: our families don't live there either. Since mehndi and sangreet are usually at the home of the brides parents, we are going to need to rent a hall. To me, this is actually a blessing. Having looked online at the super fabulous Mehndi that brides in bigger cities like Birmingham, U.K - I feel inspired to do something a little fancier although the event will only have 30-40 guests. Especially since we are combining bridal shower, sangeet and mehndi into one event.


Our mehndi is going to be a blend of traditional Indian and the Biblical elements. My mom and aunt are coming to town early to help with all the preparations. The next task is to figure out where to hold it. Since it is a smaller event I don't really want to rent out a huge hall - we will feel lost in there. My fiance is scoping out the Lions Clubhouse and a couple town halls for us. Hopefully we can find something the right size and right price!

Henna among Ancient Christians and Jews

“Your plants are an orchard of pomegranates with choice fruits, with henna and nard, nard and saffron, calamus and cinnamon, with every kind of incense tree, with myrrh and aloes and all the finest spices.” Song of Solomon 4:13-14

The Judean tradition differs here from the Islamic and Hindu religions as it uses nard as well as henna to anoint the bride, together with other costly spices.

Nard was known in ancient times and was part of the Ayurvedic herbal tradition of India. It was obtained as a luxury in ancient Egypt, the Near East, and Rome, where it was the main ingredient of the perfume nardinum. Nard was used to perfume the body of Patroklos by Achilles in Book 18 of Homer's Iliad. Pliny's Natural History lists twelve species of "nard", identifiable with varying assurance, in a range from lavender stoechas and tuberous valerian to true nard (in modern terms Nardostachys jatamansi).

Nard is mentioned a number of times in the Old Testament. It was used as one of the Eleven Herbs for the Incense in the Holy Temple in Jerusalem. And it is mentioned twice in the biblical love poem, the Song of Solomon (1:12 and 4:13).
In the New Testament John 12:1-10, six days before the passover, Mary, sister of Lazarus uses a pound of pure nard to anoint Jesus's feet. Judas Iscariot, the keeper of the money-bag, asked why the ointment wasn't sold for three hundred denarii instead, (About a year's wages, as the average agricultural worker received 1 denarius for 12 hours work: Matthew 20:2) and the money given to the poor. Two passages in parallel (Matthew 26:6-13, and Mark 14:3-9) speak of an occasion 2 days before the passover, in which an unnamed woman anoints Jesus's head. The costly perfume she used came from an alabaster jar, and contained nard according to the passage in Mark. On this occasion, the disciples also protest, saying that the perfume should have been sold to benefit the poor.

It may be that in an epitomic gesture Mary poured out the nard that was being saved for her wedding upon Jesus “the Great Bridegroom”. While no one knows conclusively this certainly fits in with the traditions of the time as previously mentioned although the traditional view that it was purchased with the thought that her brother Lazarus was dying makes just as much sense. The two reasons that I favor the view that the nard was for her wedding and not her brother's funeral are;

1) Lazarus was dead and buried before Jesus got there - his body had been in the grave 4 days before Jesus brought him back. Thus, had the nard been for Lazarus, his very conscientious sister Martha, would have anointed him already.

2) As shown above, the Bible clearly records that nard was used for brides. This costly perfume would have been given to Mary after her coming of age in preparation for a future wedding. The henna would have been purchased later, close to the time of use.

In the end I there is no way to know for sure, but I prefer to think of Jesus as being anointed as the Great Bridegroom than for burial.

First Discovery

“My beloved is to me a cluster of henna blossoms from the vineyards of En Gedi” Song of Solomon 1:14

Okay, I was completely surprised to find any mention of henna in the Bible. I was even MORE astonished to discover that Mehndi (which in Arabic simply means henna) was likely applied to Solomon's brides as part of their year-long preparation, hence the pleasant smell arises from her fragrant skin to an appreciative Solomon.

Here is some more information I dug up.

Archaeologists have discovered that henna was used on Egyptians prior to mummification. Sometimes mummies were found with mehndi stained fingers and toes. There is also reference to henna in one of Pliny's letters. He refers to the plant as the “Cypress of Egypt”. There is evidence that the Hebrews of these times called it “ Camphire ”. It is likely that it was during this period that the use of henna for brides and important occasions was introduced into Hebrew culture.

The earliest written record of women’s bridal and fertility festival henna (mehndi) is the Ugaritic legend and epic poem, of Baal and Anath, from northwest Syria, about 2100 BCE. Anath was a goddess of fertility and battle. In this legend, brides ornamented their hands with henna before meeting their husbands, and Anath adorned her hands with henna before avenging Baal’s murder. Henna’s inclusion in this legend implies that henna was used by the Canaanite people, as a bridal tradition, and as a women’s celebration of life, for many centuries prior to 2100 BCE. This use by the indigenous peoples of the Holy Land certainly influenced the Nation of Israel when they occupied the land.

Many Minoan and Mycenaean statuettes from 1700 BCE to 900 BCE show goddesses similar to Anath, whose raised hands have henna-type markings. Their breasts and feet also show marks interpretable as henna stains. Images of Libyans from the same period have stained palms and soles. The sea-faring Canaanites spread their traditions, including their use of henna, across the Mediterranean to North Africa between 1700 and 600 BCE, and as far as Spain.

Numerous artifacts from Iraq, Palestine, Greece, Egypt, Crete and Rome from 1400 BC to 1 A.D. show women with henna patterns on their hands. Henna’s use as a woman’s bridal and tribal adornment Archaeologists have discovered that henna was used on Egyptians prior to mummification. Sometimes mummies were found with mehndi stained fingers and toes. There is also reference to henna in one of Pliny's letters. He refers to the plant as the “Cypress of Egypt”. There is evidence that the Hebrews of these times called it “ Camphire ”. It is likely that it was during this period that the use of henna for brides and important occasions was introduced into Hebrew culture.

The earliest written record of women’s bridal and fertility festival henna (mehndi) is the Ugaritic legend and epic poem, of Baal and Anath, from northwest Syria, about 2100 BCE. Anath was a goddess of fertility and battle. In this legend, brides ornamented their hands with henna before meeting their husbands, and Anath adorned her hands with henna before avenging Baal’s murder. Henna’s inclusion in this legend implies that henna was used by the Canaanite people, as a bridal tradition, and as a women’s celebration of life, for many centuries prior to 2100 BCE. This use by the indigenous peoples of the Holy Land certainly influenced the Nation of Israel when they occupied the land.

Many Minoan and Mycenaean statuettes from 1700 BCE to 900 BCE show goddesses similar to Anath, whose raised hands have henna-type markings. Their breasts and feet also show marks interpretable as henna stains. Images of Libyans from the same period have stained palms and soles. The sea-faring Canaanites spread their traditions, including their use of henna, across the Mediterranean to North Africa between 1700 and 600 BCE, and as far as Spain.

Numerous artifacts from Iraq, Palestine, Greece, Egypt, Crete and Rome from 1400 BC to 1 A.D. show women with henna patterns on their hands. Henna’s use as a woman’s bridal and tribal adornment was then widespread in the eastern Mediterranean and was used by the Canaanite women in pre-Biblical times. A 30 BCE Roman wall fresco, “The Aldobrandini Wedding”, shows a “Night of the Henna” celebration, including henna patterns on the mother’s hand. Henna was used in Palestine from the earliest historical period. Roman records describe Jewish and Gentile henna use in Jerusalem during the early Christian era. There is artifact evidence of early Christian use of henna in the eastern Mediterranean region and Egypt.

Henna was incorporated into the customs of Muslims in the 6th century CE. Henna traditions were long established in Arabia, and henna was used by Mohammed and all of his wives. As Islam expanded quickly into other countries, eastern Mediterranean henna traditions followed. Henna was grown and used in Spain, by Christians, Jews and Moors from the 9th century AD until 1567 when the Spanish Inquisition outlawed it. Muslims worldwide continue to celebrate the “Night of the Henna” and regard henna as a beautiful and suitable ornament for women to the present day.

There has been a revival of mehndi among Christians from the Middle East and South Asia. The concept was certainly derived from pagan rituals but became an important part of the Judeo-Christian culture. The symbols used can vary from those used by other faiths and include those mentioned in Song of Solomon:

• Rose of Sharon,
• Lily of the valleys,
• Pomegranate, and
• Gazelle.

My journey to reconnect

This journey began as I was discussing wedding plans with my Mom. The first thing she asked me was, "are you having a mehndi?" Since I was born in Canada, of Anglo-Indian descent, and I don't really have any connection with my Indian heritage, this was a legitimate question. I replied, "Sure it sounds like it will be a lot of fun!" My goodness, I had no idea what I was getting into! I have been doing research to learn more about my roots, culture and our traditions. I have been doing this mostly online because I have felt very awkward about asking questions of Indian neighbours since I don't speak the language and I am committed to my Christian faith. I was under the (false) impression that India was divided into Hindu, Muslim and Seikh.


I hope that by sharing my journey I can help someone else connect with their roots and that those who read this will find the information as educational, surprising and sometimes amusing as I did.